Yes, I know where babies come from!

Don't be alarmed by the title of this post, I think a PG rating can still be given.  But I want to answer the question I have been asked far too many times. The awkward questions of "do you know where babies come from yet?" or "have you figured out how this keeps happening?"...yes I do and quite frankly that's why I am blessed to be a mother of three beautiful children!

This isn't written to any one person, but to anyone who has ever asked a question like the above, or the other end of the spectrum of "so when will you have kids?" or "do yall even want kids?" or the newest question for me is "are yall done now?"....

I have a few questions for you:

1. What gives you the guts to ask such  (in my opinion) RUDE questions?
2. Why can't you just celebrate the fact that our family is blessed with new life?
3. Have you thought that maybe the person who hasn't had a child yet desperately wants children but it hasn't happened for them? or..
4. Have you thought they do want children but are waiting for a certain time in their lives?
5. Why can't you respect the fact that some people have children young while others are older, others choose to have a large family and others only want one child, some have children close together and others have large time spans between children?
6. Do you know there are people in this world that choose not to have children or some that want to adopt?
7. Why is it any of your business?


I find it so interesting if a couple announces a coming child soon after marriage some will say "wow that was fast" but if a couple waits more than a few years after marriage to start a family others will say "will babies ever come". Or if a family has children within a year or two of each other people say "that's close together" but if a family waits more than 2 or 3 years others will say "how long do you plan on waiting to have another".

My opinion is to do what you feel is right and best for your family and life. My husband and I were married in March and felt we wanted to start a family immediately and we did. Two years later we wanted another child and so we had our second child. Now almost three years later we are blessed with our third baby.  Our choices were to start a family soon, while we are young, and relatively close together. We have our reasons for those choices and they are our reasons and choices. For now we are happy with our family of five, but who knows what the future holds.

My point is, I want my choices dealing with my family to be respected, so I try and respect the choices others make.  All I ask is for you to stop and think before you ask such questions.